Growing a Godly Young Man

14 Dec

Growing Godly young men is hard enough in the society in which we live today, but it’s even harder when you live in a single parent household. It’s difficult to ensure that my son is growing up in the Lord when his father blatantly and continually tells him that he does not believe in God. My son’s father used to believe in God. There was a time when I would have sworn he was saved, but life being what it is and sinful natures being so powerful, he has chosen to turn his back on God. My son is now burdened with the fact that his father does not believe.

There are big differences between a believing and unbelieving household. In my home, I protect my son’s mind and heart from shows that he should not watch, books he should not read and words he should not hear. It’s my job to ensure that he is raised right and that he learns what is good and acceptable in God’s sight. I don’t keep these things from him to be mean, but rather (as I have told him on many occasions) I do this to teach him what God thinks is good or not. At his father’s house, anything goes…and I literally mean anything. A few years ago, he would go to his dad’s house for the weekend and when he would come home, it would take two weeks to “re-train” him before he would go back to his dad’s house again.

Thankfully, and only by the grace of God, my son is now seeing the differences and is beginning to realize that I am protecting him and he sees that his father doesn’t protect him from those things. He has actually said on different occasions that he wishes his dad would protect him the way that I do. (I’m not speaking physically here, but rather emotionally and spiritually.)

You know, for many years there were all these books about raising daughters to become Godly women and to know that they are God’s princesses, but not so many on raising Godly men. I am finally seeing more and more books every year that discuss this very issue and it’s refreshing that more parents are taking an interest in their boys. I for one want to raise a very Godly young man, ‘…so that when [he] is old [he] will not depart from it.” ~Proverbs 22:6

This post is written for a link-up over at the M.O.B. society on Growing Godly Men.

Mothers of Boys


Posted by on December 14, 2010 in Uncategorized


10 responses to “Growing a Godly Young Man

  1. Jason

    December 14, 2010 at 10:32 am

    You’re a good mom, April.

  2. marina delvecchio

    December 14, 2010 at 10:35 am

    Raising a Godly anyone is a project, April. The fact that you have a child who sees the different ways you and your ex parent him is very telling about who he is. You have raised him well and your influence over him and his spirituality is blatant as well as a saving grace.

    In the 1800s men that ruled society decided that women should be in charge of the kids because they were inherently good and spiritual — they wanted the women to instill those Godly values onto the children — especially the girls. Boys have always been allowed to stray from goodness — what is required of them in life, in society, sometimes detracts from spirituality — like being aggressive, ambitious, driven by success — It’s good to see that the spirituality of the boys is now become a theme in raising children — boys and girls.

    You should write a post — Ten books that focus on the necessary spirituality of boys.

    • apesydaisy

      December 14, 2010 at 10:49 am

      I am glad that more parents are focusing on the spirituality of boys (as well as girls) more also.

  3. floyd

    December 14, 2010 at 11:35 am

    Great post from a great heart. Your sense of God’s will in your son’s life is refreshing. God knew exactly what your son would need to be the man He’s calling him to be. That need is more than met in you, at least for now. It is my humble opinion that the mother has more to do with the personality and characteristics of a man than a dad. After the age of about 11 or 12 it becomes more about the honing of the characteristics from a male mentor. As you honor God your path will be guided by Him. Thanks for your obedience and dedication, it is encouraging.

    In addition, I thank you for your concern and ongoing prayers. It is appreciated, my sister whom I have never met.

    • apesydaisy

      December 14, 2010 at 11:54 am

      Thanks Floyd. As always, you are one of my greatest encouragers!

  4. Melissa

    December 14, 2010 at 11:36 am

    You are doing what you can do to instill biblical values in your son’s heart. That is all God asks from you..His Holy Spirit will do the rest. Praying for you!

  5. Barbara Burrow

    December 14, 2010 at 2:06 pm

    When I see or hear of a situation like yours where you have to share your son with someone completely carnal, I always think of Hannah and how she had to take Samuel when he was very young and leave him with the priest and his two very wicked sons. She would only go up yearly and take him a little coat I believe it was.
    She had far more grace than I would ever have. It takes a lot of faith to deliver your son into known wickedness but God still called and used Samuel.

    • apesydaisy

      December 14, 2010 at 2:19 pm

      Well, knowing that I don’t have a choice on whether or not he goes, helps me pray that much harder that God protects him and as always God has proven himself trustworthy!


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